I am not the person to shy away from criticism. If I've done something not to the best of my ability, I'd like to know. If I'm speaking my mind too strongly, and its hurting someones feelings, I want to know so that I can stop.
Being a mom is hard. And I think all of us just want whats best for our families, and are struggling to stay afloat. Am I right?
Then to ask a question to a mothering community, a question I asked because I'm struggling and needed advice so was already a sensitive topic, and to get called a "lazy" parent is just fucking bullshit.
I got so much advice and support from other mothers, and I felt so good and no longer alone. Then one person spoils it by calling me a bad person, basically. Do I delete my comment on the Facebook group? Do I turn off the commenting? I have no clue. I think I'll leave it up, because hey. Other parents are CLEARLY in the same boat as me. So why should I delete a thread if it could help someone else?
I'll never meet this parent. So I'll have to breath, and let it wash over me.
To all you new parents out there, or even seasoned parents, just know that its okay to ask your community questions. Its hard. And we shouldn't be making it harder for you. If you need someone to just talk to, to reach out to and say, "hey, I'm struggling", I'm here for you. There are other people out there for you too.
Don't be a fucking asshole to strangers, is the lesson here.